While pregnant with her first child last year, Donielle Fagan decided to write a love letter of sorts to her son with a children’s book.
Fagan, a doctoral candidate at Auburn University’s College of Education, was thinking of a way to help children learn how to deal with their emotions. With her son, Jared – who was born in June – in mind, Fagan used her skills as an experienced counselor to craft helpful messages for youths about emotions ranging from anger, sadness and joy to confusion, frustration and grief.
The result was a children’s book titled “My Feelings Are Okay,” a 24-page self-published book that aims to teach children that all the feelings they may experience are normal while providing tips for how best to deal with the varying emotions. She hopes to one day read it to her son and have him learn important lessons from the book.
“My book is a coping skills book for kids,” said Fagan, a doctoral intern at the Georgia Institute of Technology’s Counseling Center in Atlanta. “I was reflecting and gaining new insight about what it was going to be like to be a mom, and writing the book was something I did somewhat as a dedication to my son coming into the world. I thought it was important because coping is still something we are not doing really well just yet as a society.
“It’s teaching kids that it’s OK to have some of these certain feelings and is about engaging in emotion rather than avoiding emotion. The whole idea is that, if we engage in it, we develop this skill to cope and do well with whatever it is we’re experiencing, ”she added.
Fagan’s book, which was published in July 2021 and is available on Amazon.com, has been well-received. It was included in the National Football League’s Tackle Reading Day on March 2, with Atlanta Falcons representatives reading the book to children at Heritage Academy.
“It was great, because I got to go to one of the classrooms as they read the book,” Fagan said. “I got some honest feedback from some students, and one second-grade student told me she appreciated it because it was’ t something they talked about at home.
“There were a lot of community leaders from the Atlanta area who were there, and they had pep rallies and made the students feel excited and important. It was really special to see, and the kids loved it. ”
Fagan’s experience and qualifications are varied. After earning a bachelor’s degree in psychology from Xavier University, she obtained a master’s degree in clinical psychology from Auburn University at Montgomery and another master’s degree in counseling from Auburn University. Those degrees helped propel her into Auburn’s counseling psychology doctoral program, and she expects to graduate in August after completing her internship at Georgia Tech and defending her dissertation.
The Birmingham native also has private practice experience working with troubled juveniles and has taught classes at Auburn throughout her time in graduate school. Fagan’s practical experience helped shape her messages in the book.
“I was dealing with juvenile offenders who had disorders and who were behavioral concerns, and one thing I saw across the board was an inability to cope or to cope in a healthy way,” said Fagan, who will perform clinical and private practice work after graduating. “In the book, I basically pair a coping skill with each emotion, and developmentally, it’s supposed to help them as they go into later adolescence and adulthood.”
A writer for more than a decade, she also relied on knowledge acquired from her extensive education, especially in the Auburn system, while working on the book.
“The counseling psych program and SERC Department (Department of Special Education, Rehabilitation and Counseling) is phenomenal,” said Fagan, who hopes to teach again at the college level one day. “The type of training I’ve received from Auburn has been A-1, in terms of exposure, integration, experience, resources and support. Having a lot of people pour into me as an individual has helped me pour into other areas and help others.
“My parents and in-laws all graduated from Alabama, and Auburn was not in my path. But I found myself at Auburn, and it has been one of the greatest decisions I’ve ever made, ”Fagan said.
Donielle Fagan, an Auburn University doctoral student who wrote the children’s book ‘My Feelings Are Okay,’ spent time with former Denver Broncos defensive back Jordan Moore, left, and former Atlanta Falcons offensive lineman Bob Whitfield at Atlanta’s Heritage Academy on NFL Tackle Reading Day . (contributed)
Auburn University doctoral student Donielle Fagan got some useful feedback about her children’s book ‘My Feelings Are Okay’ from numerous students at Atlanta’s Heritage Academy during the NFL’s Tackle Reading Day on March 2. (contributed)
Fagan said the added stress everyone has experienced during the COVID-19 pandemic also prompted her to write the book.
“It’s been hard for us to even process as adults, and the pandemic has been a lot for a child to process,” Fagan said. need each other is important. That’s really healthy for us, and just the fact that the pandemic changed our environments – especially for kids being unable to interact or bond with each other – that’s a lot to cope with as a kid.
“We can not control the pandemic, but what we can control is the impact of that pandemic,” she said. “Mental health and coping in general are very important and things we need to continue to focus on and destigmatize.”
Her book has been distributed to elementary and middle school children in the Atlanta Public School System, and Fagan hopes its reach continues to grow.
“My hope is that it becomes the go-to coping skills book for kids,” she said. “This is something we need that’s simple, but also vital, too. I want it to be something that’s passed down through generations and that is talked about in people’s households. ”
This story originally appeared on Auburn University’s website.